In my opinion, the institution of marriage looks more like a contractual agreement than a genuine connection. I know that relationships are not always contrived, but in many cases, there is a type of coercion at play. It seems like we are all the time trying to work out some sort of fundamental prenuptial agreement. Not necessarily a material prenup, but a psychological one. The psychological prenup is a fundamental attempt to secure our ego-centric assets before any real commitment is made. In fact, it is a left-handed way of avoiding commitment. Some form of certainty, some type of assurance is needed before we are willing to make ourselves vulnerable, which means we never actually embrace our vulnerability. We look to eliminate any-&-all risk, which is a primary ingredient in commitment and transformation.